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That was not the point I was making. I am sure that most women now, particularly if they are educated, know that they are protected under the domestic violence laws which make wife-beating a criminal offence.  It was the “yes” or “no” that did it.  I used the question about whether he had stopped beating his wife to illustrate a point that is fundamental to communications theory.Essentially,Cheap Jordan Shoes For Sale, regardless of what the lawyers think, or judges demand, or the courts mandate, there are some questions that cannot be answered by “Yes” or “No”.  “Have you stopped beating your wife?” is one of them if you’re not prone to felonious assault on your better half. For those who are, it is a perfectly normal question, the answer to which does not require more than “Yes” or “No”.  Fortunately, most of us do not fall within that category.This type of question is called a “double-bind”.   There are two types of double-bind.  The first is a psychological impasse created when contradictory demands are made of an individual,Nike Air Max 1 Mens Shoe, such as a child or an employee, so that no matter which directive is followed, the response will be construed as incorrect.  The second is a situation in which a person must choose between equally unsatisfactory alternatives; a punishing and inescapable dilemma.The first type of double-bind was explained by Paul Watzlawick,NCAA Baseball Jerseys, communications theorist (Answers.com): “A mother buys two neckties for her little boy, one green and one blue. 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The main man behind the double-bind theory was Gregory Bateson.  An elaborate joke was created to explain the double-bind. Bateson and his colleague, Jay Haley, went to visit a colleague in Phoenix, where they stopped at the National Park and took a walk.  They were so engrossed in their discussions on double-binds and schizophrenia they lost track of the time and the way.Suddenly they found themselves face-to-face with a huge bear. 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